DEAR MAN: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy skill for building interpersonal effectiveness

Watch this FREE, short video to learn an easy way to voice your needs and wants.

Lane Pederson, Psy.D., LP, DBTC

Have you ever felt angry, hurt, upset, sad, disappointed because you didn’t get something you wanted or needed, but also you never asked?

If you don’t speak up for your wants and needs, you can’t expect that people are going to meet them reliably. Because people aren’t mind readers.

Most of the time, when you speak up in a skillful way, you can fulfill your needs and wants.

Using the acronym DEAR MAN, you can help your clients learn how to speak their needs.

This is perfect for...

...The client who has trouble saying “NO” all the time...

...The one who lets their friends and family members walk all over them...

Let me show you step-by-step how to use this Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skill in this short video.

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Imagine your toughest clients...the clients that other therapists have given up on...

YOU can be the therapist finally able to help them break through severe and chronic problems including personality disorders, self-destructive behaviors and more!

By completing Dr. Pederson's Certified Dialectical Behavior Therapy Professional (C-DBT) Training available in a convenient online format, designed to fit seamlessly into your busy schedule.

When you complete this intensive training, you'll be prepared to effectively apply proven DBT techniques and tools in your practice in a flexible way, specific to your client population, to improve treatment outcomes and your practice.

Plus, you can end this course and become a Certified Dialectical Behavior Therapy Professional (C-DBT) at no additional cost to you!
Meet the Expert:
Lane Pederson Psy.D, LP, C-DBT, has provided Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) training and consultation to over 10,000 professionals in the United States, Australia, South Africa, Dubai, Canada, and Mexico through his training and consultation company, Lane Pederson and Associates, LLC ( A real world practitioner, Dr. Pederson co-owns Mental Health Systems, PC (MHS), one of the largest DBT-specialized practices in the United States with four clinic locations in Minnesota ( At MHS Dr. Pederson has developed DBT programs for adolescents, adults, people with dual disorders, and people with developmental disabilities. He has served as clinical and training directors, has directed practice-based clinical outcome studies, and has overseen the care of thousands of clients in need of intensive outpatient services.

Dr. Pederson’s DBT publications include The Expanded Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Training Manual, Second Edition (PESI, 2017); Dialectical Behavior Therapy: A Contemporary Guide for Practitioners (Wiley, 2015); and Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Training in Integrated Dual Disorder Treatment Settings (PESI, 2013).

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Topic: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)

Tags: Activity | How To | Strategies | Therapy Tools

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