Self-Compassion for Teens

A sensory activity worksheet

Lee-Anne Gray, Psy.D. • 11/10/2016 • 1 Comment

Do you ever feel overwhelmed with the challenges teens present with? Nationwide we’re seeing high rates of teen suicidality, self-harm, substance abuse, and struggles with school. We can help relieve teen suffering when we arm ourselves with tools like self-compassion.

Self-compassion for teens reduces suffering and stress through mindful awareness, self-kindness, interconnectedness, as well as the willingness to take action to relieve suffering.

So, how can we cultivate self-compassion practices with teens? A good place to start is with self-empathy and self-regulation.

Self-empathy begins with mindful awareness of yourself, but goes deeper. It starts with paying attention to your own inner needs, wants, desires, sensitivities, aversions, as well as strengths and weaknesses. Practicing self-empathy allows us to turn inward with open balanced awareness, free of judgment, and full of acceptance.

Using self-empathy, we can then begin to explore sensory sensitivities, sensory integration, and self-regulation.

According to A. Jean Ayres (2005), sensory integration is how people make sense of, and use, information about their bodies and the environment around them. When the nervous system organizes this information well, teens are self-regulated. When sensory information is either over- or underwhelming, teens can expend excessive amounts of energy trying to cope.

Since sensory integration is an unconscious phenomenon, gaining awareness of the effects allows teens to respond to situations in self-compassionate ways. Moreover, sensory integration forms the basis for learning and relating.

The following practice is an inventory to help teens discover if they have sensory sensitivities.

Practice: Use the Sensory Activities Log worksheet to explore sensory information with self-empathy.

We usually think about five-seven senses, but there are at least 11: 

  • Movement (vestibular system) 
  • Position in space (proprioception) 
  • Motor skills and planning 
  • Touch 
  • Visual perception (sight) 
  • Auditory language and hearing (sound) 
  • Smell 
  • Taste 
  • Interoception (sensing the gut, and everything inside the body) 
  • Relatedness (the sense of knowing what is happening in relationship with others)
  • Mind (all mental activity, including thoughts,beliefs, dreams, perceptual aberrations, etc..)
Fill in the Sensory Activities Worksheet by thinking about one sensory system at a time. For each one, think about the activities, sensations, and experiences that activate that system. For example, hiking activates the motor skills and planning system. Do you like/dislike it? Does it calm/soother you, or agitate and arouse? For the tactile system, think about fabrics, textures, and objects that you like/dislike and that soothe/agitate. List the various fabrics, textures or objects in each column according to your preferences. For interoception, explore the inner body and its sensations. Mind refers to mental activity, thoughts, beliefs, and memories, for example. And finally, relatedness is the sense of being aware of relationships with others.

Learning about sensory sensitivities is just a small step in becoming more mindful about oneself so that self-kindness can flow. You can learn more about self-compassion for teens in my new book: Self-Compassion for Teens: 129 Activities & Practices to Cultivate Kindness.

Download the Sensory Activities Log




Topic: Self-Compassion

Tags: Mindfulness | Self-Compassion | Self-Empathy | Self-Regulation

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Friday, November 18, 2016 11:05:22 PM | posted by Bernie
I have used meditation techniques with young people to help establish presences of mind and body. During the process, I would introduce the concept of the importance of the heart and how wonderful this part of their body was. This is a recent application I have been using with young persons struggling with like self. I have been working with elementary age children struggling with trauma and life struggle for the past three school years.