The history of couples in conflict has been overly focused on the individual issue that is unresolved: from money to who does the dishes. However, these conflicts are embedded in narratives that are themselves embedded in cultural, economic, and systemic systems. These systems are filled with unspoken expectations, obligations, norms, and responsibilities. Narrative-based approaches involve a deliberate shift away from individualized conflict within a couple and moves toward helping couples see the bigger picture. In this workshop through transcripts and video demonstrations, we will highlight how narrative approaches can unlock deeply held and destructive patterns that couples haven’t been able to unlock themselves.