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Affairs Made Simple:
DVD Video
$199.99 USD
Now Available For Preorder
This item is expected to ship 4-6 weeks after the event on July 26, 2018.
Product Details
DVD Video - 4+ hours
6 hr 28 min
Multi-disc DVD recording with electronic manual and instructions.
7/26/2018 - Available Now for Pre-Order
CE Available:
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  1. Analyze types of affairs based on emotional factors, sexual factors, gender factors, and cultural values to better inform clinical assessment and treatment.
  2. Utilize a four-session assessment model for a comprehensive psychobiosocial assessment of the injured partner, involved partner and the relationship to make better treatment decision.
  3. Develop a treatment plan congruent with the goals of the individuals and couple to heal after an affair.
  4. Create a genuine narrative about the affair which is accepted by both partners and facilitates a “wise decision” about whether to recommit to the marriage or move to divorce.
  5. Create an agreement for couples who recommit to monogamy as part of affair recovery, as well as, one for couples who adopt a consensual non-monogamy agreement.
  6. Design an individualized affair prevention plan which addresses the vulnerabilities and goals of each couple.
Confront Myths and Mistaken Assumptions about Affairs
  • Affairs are always a symptom of a relationship problem
  • Most couples divorce after an affair
  • Rebuild the trust bond before anything else
  • Touching and sexuality should not be attempted in the first year of healing from an affair
  • New data, research and cultural changes on the role, meaning, and outcome of affairs
Implement a Four-Session Assessment Model
  • Importance of conducting first session as a couple
  • Conduct the psychological, relational and sexual history individually
  • How and when to disclose sensitive, secretive information
  • Role play aspects of the couple feedback session
Treatment Model for Different Types of Affairs
  • Understand the different types of affairs
    • High opportunity/Low involvement affair
    • Compartmentalization affair
    • Comparison or love affair
  • Most vs least common type and easiest vs hardest type to treat
  • Do not give the affair more power than it deserves
  • Help couple understand the type of affair
  • Six month “good faith” effort to make genuine meaning of the affair
  • Indicators the couple can recommit to the marriage
  • Signs the couple may benefit from a “good divorce”
  • Create a new couple sexual style and a new trust bond
  • Foster genuine acceptance and forgiveness
  • Tools for sexual recovery
  • An individualized affair prevention plan
Vulnerabilities and Challenges with Affair Prevention
  • Awareness of vulnerabilities regarding person, mood, and situations for future affairs
  • Confront the myth that “once a cheater, always a cheater”
  • Dialogue and agreement about monogamy vs. consensual non-monogamy
  • Confront the manipulative or coercive partner
  • Value of satisfying, secure, and sexual relationship
  • Respect that “sexually, one size does not fit all”
Cultural Considerations in Understanding the Role and Meaning of Affairs
  • Non-American cultural differences
  • Religion, politics and social economic class
  • Special considerations with gay and lesbian couples
  • Keep personal value and judgement aside when meanings differ
Clinician Personal and Professional Values Regarding Affairs
  • Assess your personal values regarding affairs
  • Tools to define your interest, competence, and values
  • Be aware of personal values and judgements when client meanings differ
  • When to refer due to differing values


Barry W. McCarthy, PhD, ABPP, is a board certified clinical psychologist (ABPP), certified marital and sex therapist, and a tenured professor of psychology at American University. His clinical expertise focused on integrating sex therapy strategies and techniques into individual and couple therapy, assessment and treatment of the most common male and female sexual problems, and a special expertise in the treatment of sexual desire disorders.

Dr. McCarthy earned his BA from Loyola University and his MA and PhD from Southern Illinois University. His professional memberships include the American Psychological Association, American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, Society for Sex Therapy and Research, and Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies. He is a Diplomate in sex therapy earning this from the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists.

As a leading expert in this field, Dr. McCarthy has presented over 350 workshops around the world, and his extensive list of publications includes over 100 professional articles, 26 book chapters, and co-authorship of 14 books, including Sex Made Simple, Enduring Desire, Discovering Your Couple Sexual Style, Men’s Sexual Health, Coping with Erectile Dysfunction, Getting It Right the First Time, and Coping with Premature Ejaculation.

Speaker Disclosures:

Speaker Disclosures: Financial: Barry W. McCarthy receives royalties as an author for Taylor and Francis publishers and New Harbinger Publishers. He receives a speaking honorarium from PESI, Inc.

Non-financial: Barry W. McCarthy has no relevant non-financial relationship to disclose.
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