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Rethinking Couples Therapy
DVD Video
$199.99 USD
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DVD Video - 4+ hours
Multi-disc video recording with electronic manual and instructions
5/5/2017 - Available Now for Pre-Order
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  • Identify the systemic dynamic, the repeating vicious circle, the couple is stuck in.
  • Recognize each partners’ self-defeating stance (e.g. angry pursuer) and their contribution to the dynamic between them.
  • Discover how to have a confidence to trust your own intuition and training in a session with a couple.
  • Utilize a map that shows how to bring couples back together based on the interaction of their attachment styles & self-esteem issues.
  • Link each person's stance to his or her family of origin issues. We all marry our unfinished business.
  • Use a psycho-educational approach to intimacy, using a strength-based resource model, precisely unearthing and prescribing what functional skills and creative new solutions for the couple.

Relational Life Therapy (RLT)

Phases of RLT

  • Waking up
  • Inner child work
  • Learned connection

Teach Relational Skills

  • Accountability
  • Vulnerability
  • Empathy

Strategies to Move Couples Forward

  • Make their realities collide
  • Stance / stance / dance
  • Use the relational grid
  • Empower the latent
  • Reconnect the blatant
  • Minimize rage
  • Gain leverage
  • Join through the truth

Strategies to Assess and Treat Obstacles

  • Shame/grandiosity
  • Addiction
  • Attachment
  • Untreated psychiatric disorders
  • Anger
  • Violence/sexual abuse

Infidelity, Secrets & Lost Passion

  • Strategies for each person to move on from infidelity
  • Go beyond the perpetrator/victim model
  • Skills to deal with secrets in the relationship
  • Reinvigorate passion into the relationship

Deep Trauma Work and Healing in Couples

  • Move into family of origin
  • 3 questions
  • Character transformation through inner child trauma work
  • The Tri-Part Psyche: functional adult, adaptive child, wounded child


Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and author. Terry is the best-selling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner, 1997), the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women (Scribner, 2002), and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work (Random House). Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step- journey to greater intimacy – and greater personal fulfillment.

Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology.

A senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts for twenty years, and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists. Through his books, the Institute, and workshops around the country, Terry helps women and men, parents and non-parents, to create the connection they desire in their relationships.

Speaker Disclosures:

Financial: Terry Real is in private practice. He receives a speaking honorarium from PESI, Inc.

Non-financial: Terry Real has no relevant non-financial relationship to disclose.
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CE Credit is not available for this product.CE Credit is not available for this product.
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